During the Republic of China, Li Zongwu attracted widespread attention with his book “Houheixue”. He expounded the view that one should have a thick skin but not a color, and a dark but colorless heart, in order to become a hero. This article will take Liu Bang, Xiang Yu, Cao Cao, Liu Bei, Sun Quan, Sima Yi and other figures as examples to discuss how thickness and blackness affect success or failure, and show some applications of thickness and blackness in real life. ##1. Houhei Xue: Ways to Live in the World 1. Don’t quarrel with each other at any time, and don’t be the one who flips the table in any conflict. We will always meet each other even though we are far apart. This sentence tells us that in interpersonal relationships, we should maintain a calm and tolerant attitude. We should learn to smile even when we are around disgusting people, thereby showing a kind of disgust that we must master. 2. A person with unique vision, courage, quick wit, sweet mouth, thick skin, ruthless means, hard heart, and deep city will find it difficult not to succeed. This sentence tells us that in real life, we need to have certain psychological qualities and coping abilities. Unique vision, courage, flexible mind, good mouth, thick skin, decisive means, firm mind, and deep city. These traits can help us succeed in a highly competitive society. ##2. Houhei Xue: The Art of City Mansion 1. When doing things for others, you must pretend to be difficult. This sentence tells us that when dealing with other people’s affairs, we should give people a feeling of being difficult to deal with, thereby increasing our own influence. 2. When giving gifts to others, you must act natural. This sentence tells us that when giving gifts, we should behave naturally and not artificially to strengthen our relationship with others. 3. When inviting others to dinner, you must act grand. This sentence tells us that when treating guests to dinner, we should be generous and generous to show our strength and charm. 4. When discussing business with others, you must pretend to be successful. This sentence tells us that in business negotiations, we should show our professionalism and successful experience in order to win the respect and cooperation of the other party. 5. When talking about feelings with others, you must pretend to be pure. This sentence tells us that when dealing with emotional problems, we should behave pure and innocent in order to win the trust and love of others. 6. When discussing work with others, be sure to act professional. This sentence tells us that in work communication, we should show our professional knowledge and work ability to enhance our professional image. 7. When spending money on your wife, you must pretend to be happy. This sentence tells us that in family life, we should show care and generosity to our wives in order to maintain family harmony. 8. When you can’t drink, you must pretend to be drunk easily. This sentence tells us that in social situations, if we cannot drink, we should pretend to be drunk easily to avoid embarrassment and conflict. 9. Be sure to pretend to be disappointed when you can’t keep an appointment. This sentence tells us that when we fail to deliver on a promise, we should show disappointment and apology to protect our image and relationships. 10. Always pretend to be sad when you can’t help. This sentence tells us that when we are unable to help, we should show our inner regret and sadness to express our friendliness and goodwill. ##3. Houhei Xue: The Strategy of Human Nature 1. You can’t be too honest, even your best friends may betray you. This sentence tells us that in relationships, we cannot be too simple and honest, because even our closest friends may betray us. 2. Don’t get too close to anyone, because you never know when you might turn against someone. This sentence tells us that we should not be too close to anyone, because we cannot predict future changes and do not leave room for regret for ourselves. 3. Don’t reveal too much to others because you will regret it sooner or later. This sentence tells us that we should carefully choose the person we talk to and avoid revealing too much about our inner world to avoid regrets in the future. 4. Don’t tell others your plans, just show them the results. This sentence tells us not to reveal your plans easily before you achieve your goals, because this will leave enough room for others to take precautions. 5. The people who can kill you are the people who know you best. This sentence tells us that those who can pose a threat to us are often the people who know us best. Therefore, we should be vigilant and alert. 6. Don’t take the initiative to help others if they don’t ask you for help. This sentence tells us that when helping others, we should follow the other person’s wishes and not be too proactive to avoid causing trouble or misunderstanding to others. 7. High-level interpersonal communication skills: enthusiasm, generosity, asking questions and answering questions. This sentence tells us that high-level interpersonal communication requires a warm and generous attitude, and being good at asking questions to improve one’s communication skills. ##4. Thick Black Learning: The Way of Strategy 1. The highest level of hurting people: denying all a person’s ideas. This sentence tells us that the way to hurt someone the most is to completely deny all other people’s ideas, thus damaging the other person’s self-esteem and confidence. 2. The highest level of belittling a person: not insulting or ridiculing, but simply ignoring him. This sentence tells us that to belittle someone, you don’t have to use insults or ridicule. Simply ignoring the other person can achieve the same effect. 3. The highest level of offending someone: show off to him what he doesn’t have. Show off whatever he lacks. This sentence tells us that when getting along with others, if you want to offend the other person, you can show off something he does not have around him, thereby arousing his dissatisfaction and jealousy. 4. The highest level of touching people’s hearts: describe him as noble and great, and let him move himself. This sentence tells us that to move the hearts of others, we do not necessarily have to praise the other person directly, but let him move himself by praising the other person’s noble qualities. 5. The highest realm of a boss: create dreams for employees and let them realize their dreams. This sentence tells us that as leaders, we should bring dreams and hopes to our employees so that they can realize their dreams themselves, thereby stimulating their motivation and creativity. 6. The highest state of strategy: Complete your own layout from a perspective that is altruistic. This sentence tells us that the highest state of strategy lies in starting from an altruistic perspective and achieving one’s own goals through one’s own layout and plans. ##Conclusion Thick black science, as a way of life, provides us with some ways to think and deal with problems through the discussion of thick and thin and black and white. However, while using thick black knowledge, we should also maintain our conscience and moral bottom line to avoid harming others or our own interests. Only under a correct moral framework can we truly become masters of life.
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