Have you ever had such an experience? Achieving certain achievements and being praised by others, but feeling that they are just accidental, and afraid of being discovered by others that they actually do not have such abilities. This worry may be impostor syndrome. ##What is Imposter Syndrome?
Imposter Syndrome (Imposter Syndrome) refers to people’s difficulty in feeling authentically about themselves It is a psychological phenomenon of success and worthiness, not a mental illness. Even if such people have a lot of external evidence to prove their strength and ability, they still firmly believe that they are not worthy and unworthy of such success. They attribute their achievements to good luck and chance, and cannot openly embrace success. Additionally, impostor syndrome is common in perfectionists. People with impostor syndrome often have self-deprecating thoughts, such as “I just got this job by luck, and one day others may find out that I actually have no ability.” They are constantly worried about being exposed by others. A few people even feel uncomfortable when being complimented and want to change the subject. ##What are the explicit behaviors of impostor syndrome?
a) Work extra hard In order to avoid being exposed, they will study hard and work, hoping to cover up the fact that one is incompetent. b) Hidden Opinions They rarely express their own opinions and most of the time echo the opinions of others because they feel that their ideas are probably wrong and not worthy of reference. c) Extreme desire for approval People with impostor syndrome often work very hard to gain approval from others, because this can temporarily relieve their anxiety of being exposed and confirm that others recognize them. d) Unable to openly embrace success Even if they achieve something, or get a job or praise, they cannot accept it frankly. They often attribute it to luck and success. You are not alone - there are many celebrities and successful people with impostor syndrome - Natalie Portman said in her graduation speech at Harvard University that she always thought that she was not as smart as other classmates and entered Harvard’s aura of commanding stars. So choose a particularly difficult major and wear yourself out physically and mentally - Maya Angelou Even after writing eleven books and winning awards, she still doubted her abilities. - The famous TED speaker Amy Cuddy also mentioned that when she entered Princeton, she had a strong feeling that she did not belong here and was just a fake. When she was teaching at Harvard, she met a female student who had the same experience as herself. Many celebrities and successful people in our eyes also have this situation. Even though they have achieved achievements that many people cannot achieve, they still doubt their abilities. So how can we improve the imposter syndrome? ##How to improve impostor syndrome?
a. Self-affirmation and building self-confidence Amy Cuddy said: “Self-affirmation is A technique for telling a story clearly.” Take the time to get to know yourself. Try asking yourself the following questions and take the time to think about and answer them: - What are your core values? - What is the happiest and most fulfilling thing for you? - What are your special strengths? - In what situations can they be used to their best advantage? These questions and reflections not only help people learn more about themselves, they also build self-confidence and discover what they are good at and what they appreciate. b. Find partners and friends who truly appreciate you Like the celebrities mentioned above, many people suffer from impostor syndrome, but we are usually afraid to let others know. Friends around you may have the same experience. Find them and discuss this situation, and you may gain unexpected gains and resonance. Also, find friends who truly appreciate you. When you are confused, they can remind you where your strengths are and believe you can do it. Do you suffer from impostor syndrome? Is there any solution? Leave a message and share it~
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